Last week I was sitting in the coffee shop working on some content.

Two young girls come and sit down, maybe early 20s.

They both seem excited to see each other like they’re reconnecting for the first time in a while.

I don’t pay too much attention, they’re making small talk and finally, one of them says to the other:

“So there’s no easy way to ask, but what happened with ___(guy’s name)?”

Honestly, I can’t remember the name so we’ll just leave it blank.

I didn’t pay attention to their whole conversation, but anyone with a brain could decipher that one of the girls was going through a breakup and that was one of the reasons for the meet-up. She needed help from a friend to get through the whole thing.

As they talked the girl with heartache read through old messages on her phone, trying to decipher what the guy could’ve meant when he said something to her.

She cried, she laughed. She spoke with her friend about how much it sucked losing the ability to be close with his family.

And most importantly she touched on how uncomfortable it had been trying to figure out what to do with all of her free time.

(Okay so maybe I did hear more of the conversation than I needed to, but there’s a good reason…)

Eventually the friend said “maybe this is an opportunity for you to grow, and try new things on your own”. Damn.

What a great friend to have.

The reason I listened so intently is because when I was this girls age, I went through a breakup that flipped my life upside down. The same as this young woman, it seemed like the end of the world at the time.

I wasn't sure what to do, I didn't think my life would ever get better, that person made me the best version of myself etc...

Honestly, 1 year from now, she might have a new boyfriend, or live somewhere that she's always dreamed of, or have a dog who is her whole world.

5 Years from now her life will be 10x different, she might hardly ever even think of this guy.

But right now she can use the heartache as fuel to pursue a passion.

When I went through my breakup at 21, that's exactly what I did. I used it as motivation to get in the gym, I used books to occupy my mind while I was home. And to put the cherry on top... I started a brand to overwhelm myself, in order to avoid being sad about a stupid breakup.

Now, that breakup makes me over $10,000 each month. It helped me pay off $8,000 in credit card debt. It helped me fuel the fire to recreate myself.

A lot of times we think a breakup or any tragedy could be the worst thing that we will ever go through... The secret is you need to reframe your mindset so that when tragedy strikes, you use it as an opportunity to change your life for the better.

Keep pushing, whatever you are struggling through right now may seem like the end of the world, but I promise it gets better.

If you are struggling through anything, anything at all, and need some help reframing it so you can use it as fuel... schedule a call with me. I'll help you figure out how to get through it. 👇

Help me get through this.

Thanks for taking some time out of your day to read this email...

Best,

Vic Salinas | vicsalinasiv​